The following quote is taken from, 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes From Pema Chodron'.
THIS IS NOT A FAILURE
" You can cruise through life not letting anything touch you,
but if you really want to live fully,
if you want to enter into life,
enter into genuine relationships with other people, with animals, with the world situation,
you're definitely going to have the experience of feeling provoked,
of getting hooked, of shenpa.
You're not just going to feel bliss.
The message is that when those feeling emerge,
this is not a failure.
this is the chance to cultivate maitri,
unconditional friendliness toward your perfect and imperfect self."