Contemplative Monday

The following quote is from 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes From Pema Chodron'.

REFRAIN YOURSELF

"It is painful when you see how in spite of everything

you continue in your neurosis;

sometimes it has to wear itself out like an old shoe.

However, refraining is very helpful as long as

you don't impose too authoritarian a voice on yourself.

Refraining is not a New Year's resolution,

not a setup where you plan your next failure by saying,

"I see what I do and I will never do it again",

and then you feel pretty bad when you do it again within the half hour.

Refraining comes about spontaneously when you see how your neurotic action works.

You may say to yourself, 

"It would still feel good; it still looks like it would be fun,"

but you refrain because you already know the chain reaction of misery that it sets off."