The following is taken from: 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes From Pema Chodron'
WE'RE IN THE SAME PLACE
"I try to practice what I preach; I'm not always that good at it,
but I really do try.
The other night, I was getting hard-hearted, closed-minded,
and fundamentalist about somebody else,
and I remembered this expression
that you can never hate somebody if you stand in their shoes.
I was angry at him because he was holding such a rigid view.
In that instant I was able to put myself in his shoes and I realized,
"I'm just as riled up, and self-righteous and closed-minded
about this as he is. We're in exactly the same place."
And I saw that the more I held on to my view, the more polarized
we would become, and the more we'd be just mirror images of
two people with closed minds and hard hearts who both think
they're right, screaming at each other.
It changed me when I saw it from his side,
and I was able to see my own aggression and ridiculousness."