Thursday, July 21, 2011

Thinking Out Loud


How many of us go into situations armed with expectations? 




I have learned that by doing so, we are setting ourselves up for major disappointment and resentment.




Boy, I was an expert at this. I would show up, wherever , and actually expect things to evolve the way I wanted, or expected, them to do so.




After a lot of disappointing let downs and very hurt feelings, I would retreat and wonder why everyone was so selfish. 


So you see I guess the best way to approach any situation is with an open mind......hoping for the best and accepting whatever the outcome may be.


I am realizing that my thoughts of how things 'should/could be' are precisely that! My thoughts! Not everyone 'speaks' the same language. We all 'see' things from different perspectives and experiences.




Why did it take as long as it did to realize this? 



26 comments:

  1. Beautiful pictures... Are you making them into cards or pictures? And I know just what you mean... Xx

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  2. Jim I'm 42 years old and still finding things out about myself like that...

    ...like you, just lately I've tried to make a conscious effort to 'let go' a bit more and accept what comes.

    Those Lavender photos are superb.

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  3. So very true! And your photos with all different perspectives and focus depths are just amazing!

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  4. Some food for thought this! Very true.

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  5. Sounds like the wise voice of experience!

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  6. I learned that a good while ago, Jim. We all have to go through it, just like puberty and old age.

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  7. JIM. . . really like your entry. . .as usual. lol I create some impossible scenarios for others to fulfill. . . my expectations! Oh well, I am a dreamer, but I don't have to live there. . .or pay the rent! LOL

    The Lavender photos are real eye-catchers. . . .and your posting style is most attractive: you say a great deal in a little space. . .Does that ART-FORM come with maturity? ;-)

    justin

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  8. i think it takes so long because nobody tells us that sometimes things won't go our way! at least nobody told ME! i grew up thinking the world was going to fall into my lap--talk about disappointment! when you talk about "should" thoughts, you are talking about cognitive work, which is what i like to use with my therapy clients. feelings are fed by thoughts, most often, if not always, and often the thoughts are distorted by a "should" somewhere in there. makes for a world of disappointment!

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  9. I'm still learning to cope with that. And, I'm afraid that it's a lesson the politicians in Washington will never learn, even as they bring the world closer and closer to the brink of financial disaster.

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  10. Totally agree-I`m still on a learning curve aged 4? never mind ! lovely photographs and wise words x

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  11. It doesn't matter how long we take, just so long as we learn.

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  12. Good point Mitch!
    And thanks to the 'psychs' for input too.

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  13. I'm getting better at it but still have a ways to go.

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  14. I agree with Mitch. Better late than never. :)

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  15. And if you think you've learned a lot and you pretty much have it all together now... wait till you get to be the age of your dad!! I love your blogs 'thinking out loud'!

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  16. Welcome to the club of Human Nature, Jim. I enjoyed your thoughts and photos.. immensely.

    be well, be happy
    Pam

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  17. I don't know why it takes us so long to figure things out...I love your photos....

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  18. Jim, I again appreciate your thoughts as I'm getting ready to go to Kentucky on Friday to visit family!

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  19. I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed reading this Jim, and as always, your photographs are just beautiful.

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  20. I just love it when you think out loud! Why, I can hear you all the way to Oklahoma! And I love rocks, too. If I had the room, I'd collect them. That beach would take hours to investigate. Regarding revenge, I read where someone's new wife got revenge on the ex wife by posting an ad for deviant sex on Craig's list, giving out the address of the ex-wife. Needless to say, she had some real characters show up at her door! Very wise and peaceful man, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. I covered a lot of your posts because I got behind in my reading!

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  21. Last New Year's eve I posted the words.. " a year in which I have learned to accept the disappointments and cherish the suprises " I try to do this now.

    As for going out to things - the ones I expect to be fun aren't & the ones I don't expect to be are !

    Your photos are wonderful Jim but I've said that before !

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  22. A thought-provoking post and lovely lavender photos!

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  23. I'm guessing that you grew in wisdom of experience, maturity, and a larger circle of awareness. Richard Rohr writes a lot about the "two halves of life," and how the first part is more concerned with survival and mastering skills necessary for that, while the 2nd half is growing in awareness such as you reveal here. I love the photos in this posting, and your new blog header!

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  24. Couldn't agree more!

    Those lavender photos are fabulous!

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  25. I recently figured this out myself.
    I'm reminded of the song that goes "I wish that I knew what I know now when I was younger".
    Beautiful photos!

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  26. Love that purple & green... great captures! =)

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