The following quote/lesson is from 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes By Pema Chodron'.
"Many of our escapes are involuntary: addiction and
dissociating from painful feelings are two examples.
Anyone who has worked with a strong addiction-----
compulsive eating, compulsive sex, abuse of substances,
explosive anger, or any other behavior that's out of control-----
knows that when the urge comes on it's irresistible.
The seduction is too strong.
So we train again and again in less highly charged situations
in which the urge is present but not so overwhelming.
By training with everyday irritations, we develop the knack of refraining
when the going gets rough.
It takes patience and an understanding of how we're hurting ourselves
not to continue taking the same old escape route of speaking or acting out."