Thursday, April 11, 2013

It's Good To Be Back.......


I started blogging on Ron's recommendation a year after I had my concussion.
He thought that it would help with a number of things especially
giving me something on which to focus, other than my injury.


I must say that blogging has helped me in a lot of ways.....one being meeting total strangers
and getting 'to know' them and their predicaments and life struggles.


Since our lives had changed so drastically after my accident, Ron had to leave his work
and look after me for a year till I got 'my bearings', and of course I couldn't work, 
 we have had to adjust to a sudden change in our lives.


I realize this happens every day to a lot of people 
and they learn to deal with it as best they can.
This was all so new to us. We had both been working for 
so long and were 'into our routine".


It took a couple of years for me to have any type of meaningful 
and positive perspective again. But I feel we did it, and are getting there
 because we were there for each other,
every step of the way.


The past couple of weeks we have been busy
 with a creative venture that requires some 
thought and focus outside of ourselves.


We haven't put this amount of mental energy, and some physical, 
into anything for what seems to be a very long time. 
We could not have done this a year ago.
It has been so good for both of us.


As I had asked Ron yesterday, " Do you understand when I say I feel like we are 'back'?"

"Oh yes", he said.

And it is.



27 comments:

  1. What a lovely post Jim! I can#t relate to what you've both been through but I admire you for facing the challenge head on and coming through it. I'm pretty sure that the constant love of Sophie didn't do any harm either!

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    1. Thanks Craig. Yes, we have come a long way! And Sophie was an important part of the healing process.

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  2. Jim, with Ron and Sophie right by your side, you have come through.A new venture, do we have to " wait and see". Greetings to all from Jean

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    1. That is true Jean just like you were for Hugh. Yes I have 'come through' to a great degree and realize that some things will be different from what they were five years ago.....but I am enjoying where I am and how far I have come in the journey.

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  3. What a wonderful post! Being there for each other is the greatest thing of all. I'm happy to hear that you 'are back'!

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    1. Yes I am back in so far as being able to look ahead a bit more than I was able to before. I am more confident now.

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  4. Life has a way of slowing us down and causing us to realize just how wonderful it can be. It's good that you both were able to experience this while you are still young enough to enjoy it. And I hope you can enjoy it for a long, long time.

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    1. I/we haven't been called that in a long time!! 'Young' that is!! Thanks Stew, you are a sweet guy and have made my day!!

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  5. So glad to hear you're getting back to life again! Life as you want it to be, at any rate.

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    1. Yes Fiona, life as I want it to be. It has been a journey that I was never expecting to have to take but here I am alive, awake and taking every day as it comes along.

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  6. I'm happy for you -- for both of you! Isn't it wonderful to make it through to the other side of a major life adjustment and be back to being yourself again? Welcome home.

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    1. Yes we made it through Debra with a few adjustments and changes along the way. It is good to have some semblance of the past 'Jim' back home once again.

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  7. Hello Jim,

    Such a lovely post, you have a wonderful and supportive family unit. I am so happy you are back to your 'original' self, happy for you both.

    Ivan, Marc and Aston

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    1. I know I do have a very supportive family unit in Ron and Sophie. I don't know about being back to my 'original' self completely....you would have to ask Ron!! Hey, we are happy just to be where we are today. Thanks so much Ivan.

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  8. Wonderful post that made tears come to my eyes. You two deserve all the best in your lives. How great to have such a strong family unit. Should send you over to that stupid congress we have here.

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    1. Right on Inger! Stupid, stupid congress!

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    2. Thanks Inger! I know there are American citizens very much like Ron and I who are trying their best to have their unions recognized. It is coming slowly but surely in the US. And in a very short while people will be asking themselves what all that fuss was about!! It is very well accepted now, for the most part, in Canada and parts of Europe.

      Louise, I know it is very frustrating! But not all of congress feels this way.

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  9. Boy, Jim! I can't imagine what you and Ron have gone through together! I'm glad that you have found your way out of a meaningless and negative fog! You are lucky to have such an amazing partner in Ron ~ although I have no doubt that you would have been there for Ron in a heartbeat if it had happened to him rather than you. You bring me joy every day with your friendship, your amazing photos, and your beautiful words! I am so thankful that you are "back" and are in my life!

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    1. Thanks so much Louise. You know what it is like to 'be there' for each other. It's just what has to be done.
      I am somewhat 'back' but know my limits as to what I can do well and cannot do so well anymore. That is fine. I never knew my limits but know I do!! lol

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  10. As a relatively recent follower of your blog, I had no idea that you'd had such a difficult experience. I'm so happy that you feel better. I started blogging to recover from divorce. Blogging has been wonderful therapy.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Janie, isn't blogging the BEST?! Really, so much can be gained on a personal level through this medium, as you know I'm sure.
      Advice to you and all....be aware of protecting your 'noggin' when in potentially compromising situations like skating, biking etc.
      Thanks for stopping by Janie.

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  11. Oh Jim, what a tough time you and Ron have been through. I'm so glad you feel like you are back.
    I'm sorry for the accident that brought you to blogging, but I'm glad you found blogging. It's been a pleasure following your blog, and I feel like you and Ron and Sophie are my friends.

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    1. The feelings are mutual Terry! Blogging kept me/us focused on something outside of what was happening to me over which I had not much control but to 'sit and wait'.
      Sometimes it feels like I am just waking up after a very long 'sleep'. But just recently we have had the same feeling that life is getting more on track than it has in a very long time.

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  12. I know that feeling Jim. It's gratitude and relief mixed together. Enjoy this time and the creative energy that comes from it.

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  13. I did not know you had TBI.

    Your posts demonstrate a man of compassion and reflection. I am glad that blogging has brought you into my life.

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  14. This sounds like, not only a good idea for you, but for Ron too. Personally, blogging has been my pressure relief valve though a lot of horrors that have happened in the last 13 years. And, YES, I've been blogging for 13 years. And comments are the most enjoyable reward at the end.

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  15. Written so beautifully Jim---

    It is so good to walk in the sunshine, leaving your dark days behind you. I'm sure that at times-- this journey to wellness seemed never ending. I think this is a testament to your determination and to your relationship with a soulmate who is there for you-- for you both.

    You are very blessed-/ in many many ways.

    Xoxoxo
    Vicki

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