Monday, April 1, 2013

Contemplative Monday


The following quote is from: 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes From 'Pema Chodron'

THROWING HOT COALS WILL BURN YOU


"We act out because, ironically, we think it will bring us some relief.


We equate it with happiness. Often there is some relief, for the moment.


When you have an addiction, you fulfill that addiction,


there is an moment in which you feel some relief. Then the nightmare gets worse.


So it is with aggression. When you get to tell someone off, 
you might feel pretty good for a while,


But somehow the feeling of righteous indignation and hatred grows, and it hurts you.


It's as if you pick up hot coals with your bare hands and throw them at your enemy.


If the coals happen to hit him, he will be hurt.


But in the meantime, you are guaranteed to be burned."




18 comments:

  1. Great post today, and beautiful, artistic images to go with it! Yes, acting out does provide relief...but often, it's only temporary. As I've gotten older, I've discovered that the best way to avoid doing or saying something I'll regret is by 'sleeping on it', and seeing the next morning how I feel about it. More often than not, I have a different perspective on the incident after I've had time to cool off, calm down and think things through.

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    1. Martha, can you imagine having this knowledge when we were younger and practicing it!? Life would have been so much easier!
      Good tactic you use....walk away and revisit when things have calmed down. I must give that a try. Thanks.

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  2. I love these images and these words! Hope you had a nice Easter!!

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    1. Glad you liked them Keith. Easter was great around here! Thanks for dropping by and enjoy your next baseball game!!

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  3. Good morning Jim--this was good enjoy your new week

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    1. Hey Kathy. Have a good week too....busy busy, I bet! You make me feel like a slug!! lol

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    1. Thanks Pat. It was fun doing them. My, how one can totally change things!!

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  5. Its so very, very true. My best friend (whom I love just as much as my Girlfriend.) and I have been fighting for about 14 months over a girl he was dating (she was horrid for him, totally dragged him down, and changed him from a really nice guy to a really sh*tty person. He just keeps making a lot of bad choices.)One of my favortie quotes from a show called "The Chalk Garden" "...Thats the dangerous thing about hate, it can seem so reasonable." I wish I had been more reserved about my convictions. While I was just trying to look out for him, he didnt see it that way. The back and forth between he and I really hurt our friendship and now, while were are still friends we provably wont ever be as close or as good as we once were. "They" say that 'time heals all wounds' I sure hope "They" are right. He was/is a good friend.

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    1. Hi Mick. Good that you found some relief in these 'words'. Your friend may have to come to similar realizations that you have....give him time, he may. Or he may not. In which case you will know you did what you could.
      Yes, at the moment 'hate' feels so reasonable....but then it starts to 'burn'.
      Have a great week Mick.

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    1. Hi Jen. Well, these words can be added to many more words that are out there to help in our collective journeys. I trust your Easter went well Jen. Have a great week.

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  7. You really manage to pair up some incredible images with your "Contemplative Monday" thoughts. We feel the burn from these "hot" shades, especially as the focus narrows to that one piercing point. I have only lashed out a few times in my life, and for me, there was no relief in the outburst, not even a temporary one. Just as harmful, though, is the inner turmoil when negative feelings accumulate slowly, sort of sneaking up from behind. Sometimes, an honest talk helps, but more often, they'll sort of fade away if I can take a look at them, see that they're hooked up to pride issues and then let them go. I don't know.. whatever the approach, I enjoy taking a look at life through your eyes and those of Pema Chodron's. Thanks, Jim, for these weekly opportunities to stop and think about the way we go about living our lives.

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    1. That is precisely it, Carol....how we go through our daily lives. I have found Pema's lessons have helped me a lot over the years. I am only too happy to share these.

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  8. An artful interpretation...

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  9. Hello Jim,
    Hope you enjoyed your weekend - I absolutely love these images (if I shut my eyes this what I see!!). Wise words also... thank you.
    Ivan

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    1. We had a good weekend Ivan, thanks. Glad you likes these photos....I shot a series into the sun through a tree the other day and thought with a 'little help' (edit) these would work.
      Have a great week.

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