Monday, June 25, 2012

Contemplative Monday



The following quote/lesson by Pema Chodron was so helpful to me the past couple of days. With the stress my family is feeling over the care of our father, I gained some perspective from this lesson.


TAKING CARE OF OURSELVES


"I've known many people who have spent years exercising daily, 
getting massages, doing yoga, faithfully following one food or
vitamin regimen after another,


pursuing spiritual teachers and different styles of meditation,
all in the name of taking care of themselves. 


Then something bad happens to them and all those years don't seem 
to have added up to the inner strength and kindness for themselves


that they need to relate with what's happening. And they don't add up 
to being able to help other people or the environment.


When taking care of ourselves is all about me, it never gets at the 
unshakable tenderness and confidence that we'll need when everything falls apart.


When we start to develop maitri for ourselves, unconditional acceptance
of ourselves, then we're really taking care of ourselves in a way that
pays off.

                      

We feel more at home with our own bodies and minds and more
at home in the world. As our kindness for ourselves grows, so does our
 kindness for other people."

                                  
The above quote was taken from Heart Advice: Weekly Quotes by Pema Chodron.



25 comments:

  1. Here's hoping you take good care of yourself and are also well taken care of during this stressful time.

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    1. Thanks Fiona. Ron has been doing a great job keeping 'an eye' on me., as have a couple of family members.

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  2. Very good advice, Jim. And I hope that you are following it, especially during this stressful period. Take care of the people you love, and let the people who love you take care of you.

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    1. I am trying my best to hold back at times and with Ron, and a couple of sibs, I will follow the above advice.
      Thanks for dropping by and looking forward to another Kingston post!!

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  3. i totally agree and thank you, it does help me too. of course i have never been one of those people who took care of herself and i've just paid the price but i also learned from it and have turned a new leaf, but not as beautiful as the picture of one, above. god bless your family. no decision will be wrong that you make for your papa because everything you do and have done is soooooooo done out of love just like the decisions he made for his kids when you were all little. you can only do as much as you can and let god, whoever that is for you, do the rest. xoxoxoxox

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    1. Hey Chris! Good to hear you turned a a corner/leaf! lol That's good!
      We are doing what we can and actually things today are looking hopeful.

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  4. Oh, that´s a good advice, ok a tough one *phew*, but a good one! :)

    So, take care and "Alles wird gut!" Earm??? All will be good???(Should have payed more attention at scholl... :P Ok, loooooooooooong time ago *lol*)

    Hope your dad is doing ok?

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    1. Thanks Alex. Your English is far better than my German! My Dad is doing well considering his age.

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  5. Interesting quotation -- much food for thought. I hope your Dad continues to do well after this latest scare.

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    1. It is for sure Debra. This quote is a little 'technical' with some Buddhist jargon.
      Dad has improved enough to be home in a day or two.

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  6. nice thoughts
    hows your dad doing btw>?

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  7. such a gentle and healing quote. I hope you are all feeling healing moments with your family and your father. take care.

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    1. Thanks Jojo. We've been 'looking after' Dad since Mom died 5 years ago. Each year passing has required closer supervision and care. Now we have 'personal care' for part of the day and will go from there.

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  8. What a timely quote. Take good care of yourself in this stressful time, Jim.

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  9. We think of you and your family every day.
    My own father is on his way home today from Alabama and I hear his condition has worsened. So it looks like we'll get through this together.
    It can be difficult. But we will be better people in the end for all that we do.

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  10. One day at a time, Jim. Enjoy and savor each one. Find the beauty in each one - even the most difficult...

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  11. Nice one Jim , we did enjoy!
    Best wishes Molly

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  12. Thanks for the quote and also the link to Pema Chodrun as I am trying to learn more about Tibetan Buddhism. I hope that your Dad can come home to you soon and is not suffering too much. It is so difficult to see the people we love getting frail and ill. My thoughts are with you. Lily. xxx

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  13. Thanks for this post, our thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time.

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  14. An excellent Lesson. As someone who has spent most of my Life in a Caregiving mode it is often easy to overlook one's self and neglect the tenderness, care and acceptance of self that is so easily given & extended towards others. I like myself just fine, but I don't always take care of myself as well as I do everyone else or put myself high on my "list"... I'm trying to get better about that so that I remain well in body, mind and Spirit.

    Loving your Posts and Thanks so much for stopping by my Mom's B-Day Post and leaving such kind words.

    Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

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