Tuesday, September 3, 2013

.....and the light is dimming

As I mentioned last week here (click), my aunt, Annabel, was having a difficult time
after she had fallen and broken her femur.

She has not rebounded as hoped and is now in palliative care.
The prognosis is not good.

She has always been the 'light' in my mother's family.
Annabel would always give her nieces and nephews time,
even when she was busy with her three children.

Her home was also our home when we were kids.
She lived just down the street and around the corner
from my family and it was not unusual for one, two or three of us
to be there for lunch or supper.
That was how it was.

My aunt's vibrancy for life was such an inspiration for me.
My mother's life was the opposite due to illness.
I think Annabel knew this and made herself available
to her sister's kids.

That vibrancy and light has now dimmed.
We spent some time with her today and realized that 
she will be leaving us soon.

Above is Annabel with my father at a function this past May at the veteran's hospital.


  1. A beautiful photo of your Dad and dear Annabel.I truly cannot find the right words for you, other than my very fondest thoughts for you and your brothers and sisters, today and for all the days ahead. Hold her hand, tell her all that you said to us, remember those wonderful days she shared with you years ago. Greetings, from Jean.

  2. Pity to have known someone so vibrant
    and to see them dwindling.
    Remember her at her best,
    and be there for her,
    like she was for you back then.


  3. I'm sorry. It's hard to watch a loved one leave us. It's wonderful that she was so good to you and your siblings. She really stepped up and did what needed to be done, and it sounds as if she was glad to help.


  4. I'm so sorry to hear this, Jim. It's so difficult to watch a loved one leaving us. Your aunt sounds like such a special person. Your love and support will help her make the transition more peacefully.

  5. I am so sorry to hear this. There are always one or two in a family that touch everyone and connect them. God bless her.

  6. What lovely memories of a wonderful soul. She will live in your heart.

  7. So sorry. But so glad she has spread that light to all of you.

  8. Sounds like she is a big-hearted person who has lots of love for all. It's wonderful that your life has been enriched by that love. Hugs to all today.

  9. I'm so sorry that your aunt is not doing well, Jim. Her vibrant spirit will live on in your memory.

  10. To have been that light for so many years is such an amazing blessing. I know that you have carried on that light-giving torch for your nieces and nephews. In that respect, she will live on.

  11. I went back and read last week's post and now I'm crying again. I love how you connected to her, holding her hand. She has lived a long, rich life, and was a light onto many. I can see it in the picture with your dad. What a sweet photo that you will have to remember her by.

    Thank you so much for your kind words about Soldier's passing. I am so glad you are my friend.

  12. Annabel's vibrancy and caring has greatly influenced you, Jim. Her legacy now passes to those of you who love her. Thinking "what would Annabel do?" will help keep her spirit and memory alive. What a blessing to you and others who know her. Hoping that her life can remain peaceful to its end.

  13. She sounds incredibly loving and special. It's a blessing that you had each other Jim and I'm sorry that her time has come. God Bless.

  14. I don’t comment on every post but when I come I go back and read all the posts I missed. I enjoyed looking at your family old photos. You said there were 13 people in the house! Five children! I was an only child. There were my parents and me, and the maid, and that’s all – it was very quiet.
    I listened to the Prairie Oyster group – they are good. I like many styles of music – going to visit daughter no. 1 in Memphis and we listen to the blues, then daughter no. 2 is in Nashville, so that is country – I like jazz, opera, classical, Celtic, afropop (from Africa, not the US) and fados.
    I am sorry about your aunt’s health; it is a difficult time for your family.
    I like all your lovely pictures of your state, and your beach. Years ago, in Baton Rouge, or maybe LaFayette, Louisiana, I saw a film about a place they called Acadie – I think it must have been close to your area as it looked similar to it – it was very beautiful.

  15. She sounds like a kind-hearted,beautiful woman who loved her family and enjoyed her life. Such a wonderful photo to preserve the memory of her in better health. Blessings to her as she embarks on her next journey. take care.

  16. big hugs coming your way-loved the photo


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