Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Are We There Yet?......


.......well, compared to when when I was in my twenties back in the 1970's,
I'd say we are.

Ron and I were at the beach yesterday and walked the shoreline
as there was just enough sand to be able to do so.

We walked to the end and started to head back
when we noticed another couple walking towards us.
This was not at all unusual as it was a beautiful almost springlike day.


As we passed each other, I noticed that it was two guys walking hand-in-hand
and not a male and female as my trained brain automatically assumed.

I would have acknowledged them with a nod of the head,
but they seemed pretty focused and content in moving along.

I thought how fortunate for them to be able to walk together
like other couples do on a spring day.....or any day for that matter.

So, are we there yet? 
Almost....it will take a few more years for it all to 'sink in'
and become accepted by our culture.
And, when nobody (even other gay people) will even notice
that two men or two women are showing publicly that they care about each other,
that will be when we humans have arrived.


29 comments:

  1. We're getting closer every day! The amount of change we've seen in our lifetimes is staggering.

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    1. It sure is, Debra! Now we can all catch our collective breaths and not look over our shoulders.

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  2. Let not the external forces disrupt their oneness with each other. For we are all connected in harmony from the moment we take our first breath. Lovely post! Aloha

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    1. Thank you, Hula La. Well said.

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  3. Thanks for sharing this! We were just telling an older straight friend here how public displays of affection by gay people are quite often, sadly, political statements and not just expressions of affection. No, we're not there yet, but in some places we're a lot closer than we used to be (in others, we're a lot further away).

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    1. So true, Mitch. I remember when Ron and I lived in Vancouver, British Columbia in the late 70's and we could hold hands in public but only in certain 'gay neighbourhoods'....which was fine by us at the time. I guess we have to start somewhere.
      Speaking of a political statement, that was half the reason we chose to marry in 2009. We wanted to tell the world that we could.
      True, depending on the country we can feel a little freer to be ourselves like everyone else can.

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  4. Thanks for sharing our experience hon!

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  5. As a 72 year old, I have seen so many changes for the better, love will bring us closer lets all walk hand in hand.

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    1. Love is the answer, Margo.
      Thank you for sharing your positive outlook with us.

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    2. Margo, I SO enjoy your photography!

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  6. I never thought i would see such a thing when i was 20
    How wonderful we see it now.........
    How wonderful

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    1. I always thought back then that our future would be one of secrecy and looking over one's shoulder all the time.
      Indeed it IS wonderful, John, that we are where we are today.

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    1. Yes, Joyce, as it should be.
      But it is thus because of all the hard work/activism of many people over the past 45 years or so.

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  8. This photo makes me so happy, Jim. And I'm so glad it's happening in my lifetime so that I can experience such a moment. I am sure for my two daughters who are aged 18 and 23, the future holds many such moments. They already have the mindset needed for the society we are working toward. What we need right now is constant exposure, and people like this who bravely venture out (and it does take bravery because there are cruel people), so that it becomes a common sight. And a regular part of society.

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    1. When I saw these two the other day, Martha, it made me feel so good for them and many others.....they can be themselves.
      Yes, it does take bravery. I remember how we felt when in a restaurant and being stared at by some people. And we were just eating. I always took a deep breath before entering certain establishments as a couple....hoping we wouldn't be confronted directly.
      Yes, your daughters will witness a lot of positive change in their lives.

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  9. It truly is a proverbial sea of change from what it was years ago. And I hope you don't mind my admitting that I am also one of the people whose views have changed. And this change came when a close family member "came out" 25+ years ago. He helped me to understand and see that you need/HAVE to be true to yourself, and that love is all that really matters.

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    1. I do not mind at all, Kim. And good for your family member to have been able to explain it in a good manner. And good on you for being open to listen and appreciate his plight.

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    1. Hey Mark.
      Seeing any big changes down your way?

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  11. The first time I saw two men walking hand-in-hand was in Washington, D.C., during 1979. It didn't seem strange to me that they were a couple. I was much more interested in their cool leather jackets and earrings.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. LOL! Back then it was a BIG thing to see anyone brave enough to do this in public! It is because of these brave souls that we have gotten to where we are today.
      You're so funny!!

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  12. Getting closer my friend.... Love is meant to be shared without restrictions or prejudice.. I'm so very happy that you have your true love in your life..
    Xoxo
    Vicki

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    1. I am happy that you do as well, Vicki.
      Yes, we are getting there.

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