Monday, August 6, 2012

Contemplative Monday

The Practice Of Compassionate Abiding

"A question that has intrigued me for years is this:

how can we start exactly where we are, with all our entanglements, and still develop

unconditional acceptance of ourselves instead of guilt and depression?

One of the most helpful methods I've found is the practice of compassionate abiding.

The next time you realize that you are hooked, you could experiment with this approach.

Contacting the experience of being hooked,

you breathe in, allowing the feeling completely and opening to it.

The in-breath can be deep and relaxed-----

anything that helps you to let the feeling be there,

anything that helps you not push it away.

Then, still abiding with the urge and edginess of the feeling,

as you breathe out you relax and give the feeling space.

The out-breath is not a way of sending the discomfort away but of ventilating it,

of loosening the tension around it,

of becoming aware of the space in which the discomfort is occurring."

The above quote/text is from Pema Chodron's 'Heart Advice: Weekly Quotes From Pema Chodron.'


  1. Good Morning, Jim!

    It's much to early in the morning to think, but dwelling on your pictures of the water is both exhilarating and calming.

    Have a beautiful blue water day!

  2. Beautifully photographed views of the sea from the rocks.

  3. This hopefully can help someone.

  4. It actually sounds like real sound advice. But I am as spiritual as a peanut, and whenever I have tried anything relating to meditation the past, I always find myself thinking about the washing that needs doing instead of the out-breath.

    Am I a lost soul?!

    1. 'Fraid so Annie!!! There is no hope for you!! lol
      What do you mean not spiritual? I feel it all the way over here!!

    2. Me too, have to get in there deeper...go on now...dig!!!Just like when I'm digging a hole on the beach...Zzzzzzoooonnnneeee IN!

    3. LOL! Soph, you are a funny one!!

  5. I will give that a try the next time I find myself doing that negative self-talk thing.

    1. It may help Terry. I tried this a few times in the past two weeks with 'family stuff' and did find it to help....instead of running from the the 'feeling' create some 'air' around it and see how 'light' it becomes.

  6. great advice.....


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