Thursday, March 31, 2011

One Of Those Moments


Ron and I have been going to my father's house for over a month now in the mornings, I knew that this would afford me the opportunity to learn more about this man, Dad that is.




It was 'my' morning yesterday. As usual Dad had on the television, but not on a viewing channel. Every weekday morning at 10 A.M. he sets it to channel 10 which is a radio broadcast of 'old favourites' with a different theme each day, geared to a senior audience. 




Yesterday's theme was a little bit of everything it seemed.......from country to light rock'n'roll.




I had finished 'cleaning up' and put on the kettle to make some tea for myself. Dad was in the livingroom, in his chair, reading the paper and listening to the music. Occasionally he will comment on a song, if he liked it or not.




Vera Lynn was singing an old 'war' tune and he told me about the time he went to one of her concerts for the troops in London during the war.




He also mentioned that he had seen Bing Crosby in London walking down a street. Dad said that he looked different because he didn't have on his wig! He was as bald as a billiard ball I guess!




My tea in hand I headed to the sofa and sat down. Dad was still reading the newspaper and I was listening to the radio announcer introduce the next song. It was  Anne Murray's"If I Had This Dance'.




Well, I knew this was Dad and Mom's 'song'. Whenever they were out to a function and this came on, Mom would drag Dad up to dance. He never danced but always did when he heard this song  because he knew she liked it.




I didn't say a thing but remembered all the times I saw them dancing to this over the years. It was always a very special time for them and we, the family, knew this. We would silently watch and smile.




Yesterday morning was the same. It was very quiet as Anne sang. (I can call her by her first name because she is a fellow Nova Scotian.) When she finished I said that it was Mom's favourite song. There was no reply. As I looked over Dad was wiping a tear from his eye.


                      Photos taken yesterday at beach.





15 comments:

  1. Do you want to see me cry? Is that what's happening here?
    Your Friend, m.

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  2. ... and now I'm wiping a tear from my eye. Nice pictures.

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  3. Sad to have to be the one left behind in old age...,luckily he has fab children looking after him!

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  4. Oh Jim! Now I'm wiping a tear! Hugs.

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  5. Nice that you and your Dad have this kind of time together.

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  6. how wonderful for both you and for your dad to have each other at this time. i think it is remarkable that as a family you are able to look after him rather than having a stranger do this--though i am sure they would be competent! this is the way things always used to be--family taking care of family, and in my mind, the way it works best. i lost my mother 2 years ago, partly because she was 40 when i was born--i often wish she had been younger so that she might be alive to share time with me now, as i am. i think these later incarnations of parent/children relationships can be so rich. and your post tells me that you think so too, jim.

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  7. I have tears too and who wouldn't. That's so touching and so loving and the photos are so amazing. Thank you for this.--Inger

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  8. Lovely, touching story. And like everyone else I am dabbing at the corners of my eyes.

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  9. Now we all need a tissue. It is nice your Dad has his kids!

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  10. That was a wonderful story about your Father. I think that you will be so glad, for the rest of your life, to have had this time together with him. You will carry this closeness, and joy, with you always.

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  11. yup ! I`m sniveling ! need to go and blow my nose now ! sounds like your dad has some lovely memories of your mum-they must have had a good marriage.

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  12. That song really touched your Dad, I'm sure he is still missing your Mom. They have radio shows on TV? I would really like that, because I just mostly listen anyway.

    What exactly IS that thing on the shell? Erk...

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  13. What a touching and tender moment that shows the power of music and the connection it can give us to people and events. Thank-you Jim for sharing this with us.

    PS: Do you keep all the shells you find on the beach? I think I would...

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  14. sniff....that was lovely....xxx

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  15. Anne has a way of bringing a tear to my eyes too! Your dad and mum had a lovely 'special' song. beautiful photos today.

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