Monday, December 16, 2013

Contemplative Monday

The following quote is from 'Heart Advice, Weekly Quotes From Pema Chodron'. (click)


"I try to practice what I preach; I'm not always that good at it but I really do try.

The other night, I was getting hard-hearted, close-minded, and fundamentalist about

something else, and I remembered this expression that you can never hate somebody

if you stand in their shoes.

I was angry at him because he was holding such a rigid view.

In that instant I was able to put myself in his shoes and I realized, 

'I was just as riled up, and self-righteous and closed-minded about this as he is,
We're in exactly the same place!'

And I saw that the more I held on to my view, the more polarized we would become, 

and the more we'd be just mirror images of one another----

two people with closed minds and hard hearts who both think they're right,

screaming at each other.

It changed for me when I saw it from his side,
and I was able to see my own aggression  and ridiculousness."


  1. This is great, Jim! And who hasn't behaved in this manner? I've had moments like this, and eventually come to realize (after I've calmed down!) that I have contributed to the problem.

    1. Oh yeah, me too Martha! I remember once I was so furious at somebody and as I was telling them so it hit me that I was acting just like they had!! I try to check myself now when I feel this happening. Can only try!

  2. Now I can take a slow, deep breath and feel better.


  3. Love those shots and their symmetry.

    And those words - so wise, so true!

  4. If only some people in power could see this point of view!!

  5. Beautiful photos, Jim! Trying to teach third graders the concept of standing in another's shoes was always interesting! I'll bet you tried to do the same thing! I'm still working on the concept myself! Take care!


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